Hair can be an expression of one’s personality, an exclamation mark on a living, breathing canvas. Our sense of self can be connected to our hair. For many women, especially Black Women it is representative of “something” different. Something bigger, deeper, and more personal. Read More “Why You Can’t Touch My Hair Video”
Protective Styles – Where It All Began
Braids are beautiful. They mean many things to many people. They can make a statement while serving a purpose such as protective styling. I first started getting braids (having human or synthetic hair braided into my own hair) as a protective style when I became pregnant with my first child. The woman that was recommended to me by a friend didn’t work in a shop, she worked out of her home. Her work was neat and she was relatively fast. I had a bob style with dookie braids, the kind where you had to burn the ends with a lighter to seal them. So nineties! Read More “When Protective Styling Goes Wrong”
It’s taken me a long time to get these words together. Not because I didn’t know what to say, but because the rage behind them was so strong. It’s been about 2 weeks since Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain died by suicide. In the attention span of social media, that means it’s old news– ancient, forgotten, erased.
In the late 90s, during the frontier days of the natural hair movement, we had no special “curl definers,” natural hair “puddings” or “detangling” products. And if we were in a conundrum about how to take care of our kinks, coils and curls, since youtube did not exist and natural hair salons were rare, we looked around until we found another naturalista and talked to her. This is what happened to natural hair advocate, Linda “Mosetta” Jones two decades ago.
Natural hair expos are the drivers behind the natural hair movement, connecting businesses, stylists and aficionados. But who are these women, what moves them and how do they do it? In a new series we feature the fabulous women behind the these hair expos. This week: Meet Dorcas Meyers the woman behind the Roc-A-Natural Hair Expo happening this weekend in New York for the 5th consecutive year.
It finally happened. Shrinkage. I enjoyed the fact that my hair touched my collar bone. One day I woke up and my hair was just a little past my ear. I then stretched my hair by pulling it all to the top of my hair. I pinned it down for 30 minutes. I took it down, shook my hair and went to work. While I knew that shrinkage was coming, I still felt unprepared. How was I going to style my hair? Is this short hair going to make my face look big?
My fascination started while I was at work. I worked for a major retail pharmacy and a customer came in to get her mother’s prescription. Her hair was about three inches past her shoulder and full and fluffy. I asked was her hair locked (being unknown to Sisterlocs), she said these are Sisterlocs. I asked for more information and she was very forthcoming. She explained that they are versatile and all natural. I said “that’s how I want my hair”. This was the summer of 2009. Meanwhile, I kept getting my touch-ups and color right on schedule.
Then everyone stopped getting relaxers and started grown their own hair. Next the masses started wearing braids and sew-ins to give the un-relaxed hair breathing room so it could get use to not being relaxed. I did my first big chop in April of 2013; after I started getting twist thinking that I wanted traditional locs. Then in February of 2014 I went back to the “creamy crack”. In January of 2016, I started my transition with braids and Senegalese twist. I asked the African woman that was doing my twist to do my Sisterlocs; she had them and I liked the way she kept them up. She told me I need six inches of hair and that it would cost $500. I went home and did my research on the web to find out that she was not a certified Sisterloc installer.
While on my new job working the tollway, a woman came through my lane with her Sisterlocs and I asked who did her hair. She gave me her number and her name. I went home and looked them up on the website to find that she was certified. I called her and two others to get the process started, One lady told me she was busy helping her sister and to call her back Friday. Another did not answer the phone so I call the number for work and got a consultation. I went to the consultation and was giving information on Sisterlocs along with watching the history of them from the creator. I scheduled my install and went home. That was December of 2016 and my install was February 12, 2017.
I was once a proud product junkie. You know you are a product junkie when both of your bathroom cabinets are full of products and you sneak in that extra curl definer before anyone gets home. I would buy whatever product was hot for the moment. I started with Miss Jessie’s in 2008. The search for the perfect product included Oyin, Uncle Funky’s Daughter, Curls, Karen’s Body Beautiful and many more brands.
Happy 2018! My name is Yolanda. I am a proud wife and mother of two boys. I live near Houston, TX. I am a HRIS analyst by day and hair junkie by night. I have been subscribed to Going-Natural.com since February 24, 2008 (I still have my email from this date with my login credentials). Back then, there were no YouTube videos, Instagram or Pinterest.
This month marks my 6th month Sisterlocked and right before my installation in August, I had a moment of nostalgia and decided to document the last 10 years of my hair journey on my YouTube channel. I took a step back for the sole purpose of commending myself on how far I’ve come, in regards to understanding that I am not bound by society’s standard of hair and have found freedom in expressing this truth.
“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.” — Audre Lorde
I have had the distinct honor and pleasure of having a dog almost my entire life and for those who don’t know what dog’s really are. They are ‘Infinite Givers’ and always let you know just how fun life really is.
Before I arouse any angry responses, allow me to ask this question: Have you ever been with someone and you realize they have a habit or habits and/or lifestyle that you can’t stand? Or as I’ve come to realize. Simply aren’t in alignment with my own fickle lifestyle? Good! Then here lies a true tale (wink).
Returning Natural & Self Love
Excerpt from my journal 1 year natural and struggling to love my natural appearance:
I don’t even know where to begin – as usual. Do I just hate myself? It shouldn’t be this hard to just love and accept myself for who I am. I keep coming up with excuses for why I feel this way. Its not even really excuses, the reasons why are clear and pretty accurate… The solutions I’ve come up with seem to work on the surface, but deep down something isn’t allowing the love to reach the core. It’s so f***’d up knowing everything I know and feel about life, yet the most significant piece of the puzzle hasn’t been found.
It didn’t take long for this young adorable model to win over the population. 7 years on the planet, this girl from Suriname gained over 50,000 combined likes and shares on Facebook. Suriname is a small tropical country full of forests and a variety of flora and fauna off the coast of South America. Cherelice’s mother shared some information about her and gave insight into why she is such a heart-capturing little thing.
I anxiously squirmed in my seat that cozy April night in the living room of my Brooklyn apartment, waiting for my King to finally press the clippers to my scalp and curve down the nape of my neck. Today was the day I had been contemplating for some months when I would finally shave off all of my hair and rid myself of the constant pulling, burning, hiding and stressing over just the handful of hair that had grown since the last pixie style I’d been rocking.